Throughout history, whenever it comes to love and marriage, people get all excited and worked up. Just the thought of answering the question “When are you getting married?” when visiting home and meeting relatives can be quite a headache. Recently, the “encouragement to marry before 30” has sparked even more debates.
We asked some well-known KOLs/influencers among the youth about marrying before 30 and received many interesting responses. It’s quite noticeable that although they are all young, there is a slight difference between the perspectives of men and women, especially regarding the decision to marry.
For those who are not yet married, like Pewpew or ViruSs, they believe that men should only marry when they feel most confident about themselves and have a stable career. Meanwhile, women, represented by Giang Ơi, Khánh Linh, Ngọc Nữ, etc., argue that the first factor for marriage is love; if they haven’t found their true other half, they should enjoy their freedom and make the most of their youth.
Trung Anh – 1977 Vlog (28 years old): Don’t marry just for the sake of it!
Marrying early can be more beneficial than marrying late. Being young makes it less tiring to change diapers, but when you’re older, changing diapers can lead to back pain and sore knees, which is tough. But joking aside, if you meet the right person, marry quickly; if not, don’t rush, it’s not about marrying just for the sake of it!
PewPew (29 years old): Men need to be confident about themselves before marrying
I don’t intend to marry just to meet the 30 deadline; I will marry when I feel comfortable and confident, so I’ll just let things happen naturally. As for when I feel confident, I think men need to be able to take charge of their family in terms of psychology, finances, and emotions, and be the most confident version of themselves.
ViruSs (30 years old): Finish one job before focusing on the family
I haven’t thought about marriage yet because I’m currently focused on my work. Even though I’m no longer young, I still believe in finishing one job at a time; I have too many things to do and need to accomplish first. After completing necessary tasks, I’ll focus 100% on family. So, I think I won’t consider marriage for another 2-3 years, or maybe sooner, but I can’t say for sure.
“Best friend” Trị Nguyễn (29 years old): The right time, the right person, the right finances, and parents’ approval before sending out invitations
I think encouraging marriage before 30 has scientific basis, especially in terms of health. When the time is right, it’s just a matter of waiting for the right person, the right finances, and parental approval, then it’s time to send out invitations.
Giang Ơi (29 years old): We are “encouraged” not “forced” to marry
In reality, there is no “one size fits all” approach, which is why we are “encouraged” rather than “forced”. Personally, I think we need to consider both policies and our family circumstances. It’s not hard to know that 20-30 is the ideal time to have children, but it’s equally important to answer these questions:
– Have I met the right partner?
– Am I financially ready?
– Am I ready in terms of time?
– Am I psychologically ready?
Answering all these questions, along with considering the encouraging policies, will lead us to the most suitable response for ourselves.
Ngọc Nữ (26 years old): I haven’t met my “prince charming” yet
I always strive to be a modern, financially independent woman, but I also don’t forget my duties as a mother and a wife to build happiness for my family. Therefore, I will only marry when I am truly ready; for now, I will live well to make my youth meaningful and fulfilling. The 30-year deadline probably won’t be met since I want to do many things and haven’t met my “prince charming” yet, but I hope to marry around 31-33.
Khánh Linh (25 years old): Hope to marry “in time” before 30 if the “catalyst” is right
Linh is quite relaxed about marriage. However, I believe that to marry, three factors are needed: 1 is love, 2 is compatibility in personality and lifestyle, and 3 is both are ready. Currently, I’m not thinking about marriage, but I expect it will be in the near future, as I like family life and having someone to care for me. If the “catalyst” is right, I hope to marry “in time” before 30.
Quỳnh Lương (25 years old): The younger, the more choices
I think one should marry early. Firstly, the younger you are, the more choices you have. Secondly, doctors also recommend marrying and having children before 30. Thirdly, regarding work, if I take maternity leave and return before 30, it will be easier to adapt. Lastly, if I make mistakes in marriage when I’m young, I still have time to start over, and I won’t have to deal with neighbors asking my mom, “Why hasn’t your daughter gotten married yet?”
If a girl over 30 hasn’t married but has a career, that’s good; but if she doesn’t have a career, then she may end up with nothing. Not many men prefer older women, and those around my age will likely date younger girls. It’s like the saying goes, “the older the woman, the harder it is to sell.”
Right now, I still want to get married and will strive to do so before 30. I’ve had children early, and I see many advantages to it. There’s no reason to marry late; I want to take advantage of my youth to be a beautiful young mother of two. But the most important reason is that I really want to have a sweet daughter, so I still want to get married.
Poet Trịnh Nam Trân (28 years old): The age of marriage isn’t important; what matters is marrying the one you love and who loves you
For me, the age of marriage isn’t important; what matters is marrying the person you love and who loves you, the one destined for you.
In terms of biology, I think the “golden age” for marriage is truly between 25 and 30. At that age, everyone is in their “prime” regarding many things, from appearance to mindset and responsibility. At the same time, they are not too old to lose their youthful charm and romantic ideals; these are essential for a fulfilling married life.
